LYL Season 3, Ep. 2 – How to Quit Making Excuses – How To Take Personal Responsibility to Become a Greater Influencer
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I need more time.
It’s not that I just need more time…I need the time dump truck driver to come to my house and throw out some loads of time on my porch so I can add more hours to my day. Seconds. I would even take a handful of extra seconds.
The problem is, however, that I started using my lack of time as an excuse instead of an opportunity to improve. The moment I changed my mindset towards excuses was the moment my life changed forever.
I needed to start living on Level 1.
I needed to take responsibility of my life.
Honestly, my lack of time is a serious issue. And I can sincerely justify my lack of time because I am using it (for the most part) effectively and efficiently. However, I kept finding myself complaining about my lack of those precious minutes.
I was letting my lack of time become an excuse instead of an opportunity to improve.
It wasn’t just time. I find myself making excuses for several areas of my life that seemed out of control.
1. My weaknesses – I was just born that way. I am not organized, I guess this is just who I am as a person.
2. My poor relationships – Those people are mean to me. They just don’t treat me like I need to be treated.
3. My lack of skills – I will never be able to learn how to code websites. Technology doesn’t scare me, but it sure gives me the creeps. I can’t figure it out…Oh well, I guess I just won’t ever learn.
I don’t know if I will ever become a master of my excuses, but if I want to Live My List, I know I will need to take responsibility for my actions, behaviors, relationships, and yes…even my time.
(If you haven’t taken the Live Your List Assessment, it isn’t too late. Story continued below.)
It’s not just that I needed to take care of my responsibilities, I needed to get a process.
The Rule of Three – The Secret to Explosive Growth
How did I know when to turn my responsibilities (excuses) into documented repeatable processes? Well, I read this awesome article from inc.com.
This article argues that if you are going to perform a task more than three times, you are going to involve more than three people, or it takes more than three steps…it should be written down and turned into a formal process.
1. If you do it more than three times. “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” If you find yourself creating the same excuses over and over again, create a process to eliminate those excuses.
2. If it involves more than three people. You don’t just take responsibility of your life just for you…you are taking responsibility of your actions to benefit those who are involved in your life. Put a process together to take responsibility of your relationships .
3. It takes more than three steps. You have to be honest with yourself. Sometimes the reason we make excuses is because we are taking on huge tasks – tasks that seem impossible. If we want to accomplish amazing things that require a considerable amount of detail, we need to create a process.
What now? Take the Inventory
One way to take responsibility is to take complete inventory of your responsibilities, relationships, and time. We have adopted an inventory from our Nick Collison Pick of the Day and added some Live Your List fun.
Download the inventory below and post your thoughts on the Live Your List Facebook group. Continue to be awesome. Repeat.
Live Your List Personal Inventory
Nick Collison Pick of the Day
1. My Orange Duffel Bag: A Journey to Radical Change by Sam Bracken. – Abandoned at age 15, Sam Bracken battled homelessness, poverty, and abuse to successfully earn a full-ride football scholarship to the Georgia Institute of Technology. When he left for college, everything he owned fit in an orange duffel bag.
Now, in this award-winning illustrated memoir and road map to personal transformation, Sam shares his story as well as everything he’s learned about overcoming the odds and radically changing his life so that you can create positive, lasting change of your own. With My Orange Duffel Bag, you’ll have the inspiration, motivation, and tools to realize your potential and achieve your dreams.
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